I have had thoughts about the topic of suicide on my mind since Fantasia decided to come forward and blatantly state that she knew what she was doing when she attempted suicide. Since the story broke the young lady has been on a promotional trail that is boggling to the psyche. I can honestly state that her promotional media blitz starting that statement alone has me feeling some kind of way toward her. Lord knows I hope I don’t have any love ones considering taking their life because they can’t cope with the mess going on in their life. I have heard the media folks and her followers say people make mistakes, we all have been there, some of us have been with married men and did not know it, yadayadayadayada. Fantasia deserves a second chance and all the media hoopla that is suppose to convince folks why they should still go out and support her latest efforts “Back To Me.” Don’t get me wrong…I am far from perfect and never will claim that title.
I have heard commentary about why are we all going hard with Fantasia and not Alicia Keyes? Is it a dark skin v. light skin issue? My humble answer to all of this “NO.” Being a dark or light skin women has nothing to do with Fantasia backlash from bloggers and the media. I am going to go out on a limb and say that conversation is predominantly coming from an African American fan base? Typical and unfair to say the least…..I would love to know how that conversation was started and the true origin of how it appeared in cyberspace? Then comes religion thrown in the mix with a lot of scripture? REALLY! Folks tend to hide behind their religion shroud which can get mask to suits one situation and circumstances. I for one is the first one that would tell anyone “if it had not been for the lord and my momma,” I could have been on a street corner with my mouth twisted in an unrecognizable state that would have had me looking crazy.
Let’s go in about the celebrities that have been caught up in messy publicity concerning cheating. Tiger Woods. Michael Jordon, Morgan Freeman, Angelina Jolie, Britney Spears, Barbra Walters, Shaq and the list goes on….I don’t recall Elin wanting to commit suicide nor Juanita. We will all remember the infamous ass whipping that Elin wanted to put on Tiger Woods. Uh Huh! How did Fantasia think dudes #Paula Cook would react? #imjustsayin #Fantasia and #VH1 may have had this media blitz already in the works but they both could have spin the story differently?
Since we all have an opinion that most folks may not want to hear….I have found in my 45 years on this earth that folks want to denounce those who don’t stand in agreement and follow their wayward messages. My black ass has stood as the lone ranger on a variety of topics but that does not mean I am not entitled to my own point of view. We all have one! In the African African community I thought suicide was frown upon especially amongst religious folks? Now here comes a African American celebrity claiming she knew what she was doing when she took a bottle of pills? What kind of message are we suppose to derive from this conversation? What do you tell your kids who are contemplating suicide? My issue is not what issues Fantasia has with her family but what role is she playing for her fans? Is Fantasia for real? Is it possible that we are willing to overlook someone because they are an celebrity but willing to denounce the actions of folks that really commit suicide for the love of country and sacrifice? Think about it for a moment….has anyone ever asked the dude who failed at his attempt to blow up an airplane with an bomb in his drawers what he was thinking? What about the young kids who put bombs on their body? What about all the “Precious” girls in the world who are enduring serious shit at the hands of a parent? If those questions could be answer for me…perhaps my stance about suicide would change. I may have felt like committing suicide and thought about it for half of a second but to actually commit it… “I know deep down inside the core of my soul that it would be wrong” and selfish. I could not get past the part about what would my family and friend think about the act? Whose life would I change because of suicide? Fantasia does not discuss what her daughter experience during this entire ordeal? Furthermore, suicide is one of the greatest acts of selfishness, for in it the individual caters to his own desires and his own will, ignoring the catastrophic effects it has on others. Christians need to learn to be especially understanding of families that have sustained suicides. It is appalling to a family when one of its members decides that he or she would rather be dead than continue to share their company. Since no illness or accident is to blame for the killing, they are consumed with guilt.
On the matter of scripture I have a few of my own. #JUSTSAYIN #JUSTSAYING Be careful folks when you throw out scriptures that appease yourself, crew and never judge a book by its cover.:
What is Fantasia SOUL worth to her? I did some research on the topic of suicide based on biblical teachings. This is what I found and renewed my own spirit by reading the material.:
Matthew 16:26 asks us, “For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?”
“All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be” (Psalm 139:16).
According to the Bible, suicide is not what determines whether a person gains entrance into heaven. If an unsaved person commits suicide, he has done nothing but “expedite” his journey to hell. However, that person who committed suicide will ultimately be in hell for rejecting salvation through Christ, not because he committed suicide. What does the Bible say about a Christian who commits suicide? The Bible teaches that from the moment we truly believe in Christ, we are guaranteed eternal life (John 3:16). According to the Bible, Christians can know beyond any doubt that they possess eternal life (1 John 5:13). Nothing can separate a Christian from God’s love (Romans 8:38-39). If no “created thing” can separate a Christian from God’s love, and even a Christian who commits suicide is a “created thing,” then not even suicide can separate a Christian from God’s love. Jesus died for all of our sins, and if a true Christian, in a time of spiritual attack and weakness, commits suicide, that would still be a sin covered by the blood of Christ.
Suicide is still a serious sin against God. According to the Bible, suicide is murder; it is always wrong. Serious doubts should be raised about the genuineness of faith of anyone who claimed to be a Christian yet committed suicide. There is no circumstance that can justify someone, especially a Christian, taking his/her own life. Christians are called to live their lives for God, and the decision on when to die is God’s and God’s alone. Although it is not describing suicide, 1 Corinthians 3:15 is probably a good description of what happens to a Christian who commits suicide: “He himself will be saved, but only as one escaping through the flames.”